AC/DC
Someone who enjoys both same-sex and opposite-sex fun. Basically, their bed doesn’t care about gender... it’s open for all power sources. ⚡
AC/DC describes someone open to sexual activity with more than one gender.
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ADULT
Sexually oriented material. Aka porn, smut, or that thing you “accidentally” left open when your boss walked by.
Adult content is sexually oriented material intended for adults.
Back to A-ZALL CULTURES
Someone who enjoys any and all fetishes or sexual activities. The “buffet sampler” of kink, will try anything twice, just to be sure.
All cultures means being open to many fetishes or sexual activities.
Back to A-ZAMERICAN CULTURE
Missionary position... man on top. Apple pie, bald eagle, and lights out by 10.
American culture is an older euphemism for missionary-position sex.
Back to A-ZANAL CREAMPIE
When a guy finishes inside the backdoor and gravity takes care of the rest. Not for the faint of heart, or the faint of hygiene.
An anal creampie means ejaculation inside the rectum.
Back to A-ZANAL SEX
Anal intercourse. Commonly known as “butt stuff,” “the scenic route,” or “the road less traveled (for good reason).”
Anal sex is sexual penetration of the anus.
Back to A-ZANALINGUS
Licking or kissing your partner’s backside. Or as the pros call it, “tasting the rainbow, but from the wrong end.”
Analingus is oral stimulation of the anus.
Back to A-ZARTS
A classy euphemism for fetishes. Because “bondage enthusiast” just doesn’t sound as refined as “patron of the erotic arts.”
Arts is an older euphemism for sexual fetishes.
Back to A-ZATM (Ass to Mouth)
When what went in the back comes out the front... immediately. Not recommended for germaphobes or those who say “ew” easily.
ATM means oral contact after anal penetration without cleaning in between.
Back to A-ZB
BAREBACK
Sex without a condom. Also known as “riding raw,” “cowboy style,” or “hope you both tested last week.”
Bareback means having penetrative sex without a condom.
Back to A-ZBBC
Big Black Cock. It should be above 8 inches and should come with a quart of lube, as it generally hits new territory.
BBC is an abbreviation for a large penis belonging to a Black man.
Back to A-ZBWC
Big White Cock. It should be above 8 inches, but not always. Lube is recommended, and bring a ruler... the rest of us guys want to know.
BWC is an abbreviation for a large penis belonging to a white man.
Back to A-ZB&D / B/D / BDSM
Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, Masochism, basically adult trust falls with whips and safe words.
BDSM is a broad term for consensual bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, and masochism.
Back to A-ZBI / BISEXUAL
Enjoys both men and women. Twice the options, twice the confusion at orgies.
Bisexual describes attraction to more than one gender.
Back to A-ZBI-CURIOUS
Thinking about trying same-sex fun. They’re standing at the shallow end of the bi-pool, toe in, wondering if it’s warm.
Bi-curious describes someone considering same-sex experiences.
Back to A-ZBIZARRE
Unusual sexual desires, according to “normal” people who think socks in bed are kinky.
Bizarre is an older label for sexual interests considered unusual.
Back to A-ZBONDAGE
Tying someone up for pleasure. For those who like their partners attached in every sense of the word.
Bondage is consensual restraint for sexual pleasure.
Back to A-ZBULL
The dominant man who joins a couple, especially in cuckold scenes. Think of him as the guest star who doesn’t need direction.
A bull is a man who has sex with one partner in a couple, often in a hotwife or cuckold dynamic.
Back to A-ZC
CAN ENTERTAIN AND/OR TRAVEL
Happy to host or visit for fun. Comes with their own luggage and condoms.
This means someone can host at home or travel to meet others.
Back to A-ZCANING
A spanking fetish using a cane, usually bamboo. The sound alone can make your butt clench in anticipation or fear, sometimes both.
Caning is consensual striking with a cane for erotic pleasure.
Back to A-ZCHEATING
Having sex behind your partner’s back, also known as “the lifestyle’s biggest party foul.”
Cheating is sexual or romantic activity that violates a relationship agreement.
Back to A-ZCLEAN
Free of STDs and drama. The word everyone hopes means “recently tested,” not “I feel fine.”
Clean is commonly used to claim STI-free status, though recent test results are more meaningful.
Back to A-ZCLOSED DOOR / CLOSED SWINGING
Each couple in their own room. The “Netflix and separate chill” version of swinging.
Closed-door swinging means partners play in separate rooms.
Back to A-ZCLOSET SWINGER
A swinger who hides it from friends and family. Their alter ego’s name is probably “vanilla.”
A closet swinger keeps their lifestyle participation private.
Back to A-ZCOUPLE (CPL)
Two people, usually a man and woman, playing together. May come with shared rules, mixed signals, and matching outfits.
CPL is profile shorthand for a couple.
Back to A-ZCREAMPIE
When he finishes inside her and you can see the evidence. Mother Nature’s version of a lava lamp.
A creampie means ejaculation inside the vagina or anus.
Back to A-ZCUCKOLD
A man who enjoys watching... or knowing... his wife plays with others. The only guy rooting for the other team.
A cuckold is a man aroused by his female partner having sex with another man.
Back to A-ZCUCKQUEEN
The female version of a cuckold. She gets turned on by her man playing with someone else... proof that jealousy can be sexy when it’s mutual.
A cuckqueen is a woman aroused by her male partner having sex with another woman.
Back to A-ZCULTURE
Another polite word for fetish. Because “I’m into culture” sounds better than “I own six paddles and a latex priest outfit.”
Culture is an older euphemism for a sexual practice or fetish.
Back to A-ZCUNNILINGUS
Oral attention to the vagina and clitoris. Requires enthusiasm, stamina, and a good chiropractor.
Cunnilingus is oral stimulation of the vulva and clitoris.
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D&D FREE
Drug and Disease Free. Means “sober enough to consent” and “won’t send you home with antibiotics.”
D&D free means someone claims to be free of recreational drugs and sexually transmitted infections.
Back to A-ZDILDO
An artificial penis. Often better at its job, never asks for sandwiches afterward.
A dildo is a non-vibrating sex toy designed for penetration.
Back to A-ZDIRECTOR
The person who runs a swing club. Basically the cruise director of your pants.
A director manages or hosts a swinger club or event.
Back to A-ZDISCIPLINE
A fetish involving control and punishment. Because sometimes a “time-out” needs handcuffs.
Discipline is consensual correction or punishment within BDSM.
Back to A-ZDISCREET
Being careful so the neighbors don’t find out. The opposite of live-streaming from your playroom.
Discreet means keeping lifestyle activity private.
Back to A-ZDISCRETE
A word people use when they meant discreet. Grammar kink fail.
Discrete means separate or distinct, not private.
Back to A-ZDOCILE
Happy to receive bondage or discipline. The human version of “do not disturb.”
Docile describes a willing, compliant, or submissive participant.
Back to A-ZDOMESTIC TRAINING
Obedience through chores. “Yes, Mistress, I’ll mop in my collar.” Still counts as cardio.
Domestic training is a BDSM practice involving service and household tasks.
Back to A-ZDOMINANT
The partner who takes control. Often owns the paddle, the power, and the playlist.
A dominant directs consensual BDSM activity.
Back to A-ZDP (Double Penetration)
Two entries, one destination. Requires teamwork, trust, and spatial awareness.
Double penetration means simultaneous penetration of two body openings.
Back to A-ZDPV (Double Penetration Vagina)
Two guys, one entry. Bring plenty of lube, your A-game, and your teamwork merit badge.
DPV means two penises or toys penetrating the vagina at the same time.
Back to A-ZDRAMA
What happens when someone forgets swinging is supposed to be fun. If you bring jealousy to a party, take it home with you.
Drama means avoidable conflict, jealousy, or disruptive behavior in the lifestyle.
Back to A-ZE
ENGLISH CULTURE
Getting turned on by spanking or caning. Basically Downton Abbey with a sore butt.
English culture is an older euphemism for spanking or caning.
Back to A-ZEXHIBITIONIST
Someone who gets off on being watched. If there’s a mirror, a window, or a camera nearby, they’re already halfway there.
An exhibitionist is aroused by being watched while nude or sexual.
Back to A-ZF
FAMILY FIRST
Code for “We have kids, and we’ll need to find a sitter before the orgy.”
Family first means family obligations take priority over lifestyle plans.
Back to A-ZFELLATIO / FRENCH CULTURE
The fine art of oral pleasure on the penis. Vive la France... and don’t forget to tip your stylist.
Fellatio is oral stimulation of the penis.
Back to A-ZFETISH
Arousal from objects, actions, or body parts not normally considered sexual. If someone says, “It’s a long story involving balloons,” just smile and nod.
A fetish is strong sexual arousal connected to a particular object, body part, or activity.
Back to A-ZFLAGELLATION
Getting turned on by being whipped or spanking someone. Think of it as cardio with welts.
Flagellation is consensual whipping or striking for erotic pleasure.
Back to A-ZFLUID BONDING
Having unprotected sex and exchanging fluids. Sexy in concept, serious in consequence. Proceed only if everyone’s papers are as clean as their sheets used to be.
Fluid bonding is an agreement to have barrier-free sex with selected partners.
Back to A-ZFMF
Female-Male-Female. For when you realize ménage à trois just sounds fancier in French.
FMF means a threesome involving two women and one man.
Back to A-ZFULL SWAP
Both couples go all the way with each other. The swingers’ version of “Take your keys, I’ll take your spouse.”
Full swap means couples exchange partners for penetrative sex.
Back to A-ZFUN AND GAMES
A euphemism for sex. Because saying “We’re playing Twister” keeps the neighbors guessing.
Fun and games is a euphemism for sexual activity.
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GAY
Homosexual, male or female. Also describes 90% of the dance floor when Madonna comes on.
Gay commonly describes same-sex attraction, especially between men.
Back to A-ZGANGBANG
Four or more guys, or ladies, with one lucky, or exhausted, participant. Like a team sport, but only one gets a medal.
A gangbang is group sex focused on one participant.
Back to A-ZGREEK / GREEK CULTURE
Anal sex. The ancient art of backdoor diplomacy.
Greek is an older euphemism for anal sex.
Back to A-ZGROUP ROOM
A room set up for group sex. Wall-to-wall mattresses, no judgment, and one lost sock that nobody claims.
A group room is a shared space provided for sexual activity involving several people.
Back to A-ZGROUP SEX
Sex with three or more people. Kind of like a potluck... everyone brings something to share.
Group sex involves three or more participants.
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HALL PASS
Permission to play without your partner present. Used correctly, it’s liberating; used carelessly, it’s divorce court.
A hall pass is permission to have sexual activity without one’s partner present.
Back to A-ZHARD CORE / HARD SWINGING
A party where sex is assumed and expected. Bring lube, not small talk.
Hard swinging usually means penetrative partner swapping or sexually explicit group play.
Back to A-ZHEDONIST
Someone who lives for pleasure. Probably has a frequent flyer account with Hedonism II.
A hedonist prioritizes pleasure and enjoyment.
Back to A-ZHETEROSEXUAL
Attracted to the opposite sex. Still trying to understand why everyone else is having more fun.
Heterosexual describes attraction primarily to another gender.
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Attracted to the same sex. Twice the wardrobe, half the drama, usually.
Homosexual describes attraction primarily to the same gender.
Back to A-ZHORNY
Sexually charged and ready to go. Basically the human version of a “low fuel” warning light.
Horny means sexually aroused.
Back to A-ZHUNG
Blessed with a large penis. Also responsible for 90% of bad mirror selfies.
Hung describes a man with a notably large penis.
Back to A-ZHWP (Height-Weight-Proportionate)
Code for “I don’t look like I did in my profile pic, but I still clean up nice.”
HWP means a person considers their height and weight proportionate.
Back to A-ZI
INDOOR / INDOOR SPORTS
Swinging in general. Because technically it is a sport... there’s teamwork, sweat, and sometimes injuries that are hard to explain to your chiropractor.
Indoor sports is an older euphemism for swinging or sexual activity.
Back to A-ZINTERESTED IN FRIENDSHIP
Wants more than just a hookup... maybe dinner first, or at least tacos. Because let’s be honest: nothing says romance like post-play guacamole.
Interested in friendship means someone wants social connection in addition to sexual activity.
Back to A-ZIRL (In Real Life)
Used online to say, “I actually want to meet you outside of chat.” Not to be confused with “IYKYK,” which means they probably really want to meet you.
IRL means meeting or interacting in person rather than online.
Back to A-ZISO (In Search Of)
The swinger version of a classified ad. “MWC ISO Unicorn” = “Married couple chasing fantasy like it owes them money.”
ISO means someone is looking for a particular person, couple, or experience.
Back to A-ZJ
JACKOFF
Not that it's a dedicated swinger term... but when you get to your next house party or orgy and everyone around you is doing it, or helping someone else do it... you'll think swingers invented it.
Jackoff is slang for masturbation, usually referring to manually stimulating yourself.
Back to A-ZK
KINK
Really what we all are, but here it means usually BDSM or Water Works.
Kink is a broad term for sexual interests outside conventional or vanilla sex.
Back to A-ZL
LEATHER
A fetish for the smell, feel, or look of leather. Imagine 50 Shades of Moo.
Leather describes erotic interest in leather clothing, gear, or culture.
Back to A-ZLESBIAN
A woman who loves women. Often the most requested person at a pool party, especially during “Ladies’ Night.”
A lesbian is a woman primarily attracted to women.
Back to A-ZLIFESTYLE
A polite term for “swinging,” “kink,” or “that thing we can’t talk about at Thanksgiving.”
The lifestyle is a common term for consensual non-monogamy and swinging.
Back to A-ZLS
Short for Lifestyle. Handy when your autocorrect keeps changing “swinger” to “singer.”
LS is shorthand for lifestyle.
Back to A-ZLTR (Long-Term Relationship)
A relationship that lasts longer than your average swinger party, rare, but not extinct.
LTR means long-term relationship.
Back to A-ZM
MARITAL AIDS
Dildos, vibrators, and other toys that keep marriages exciting and batteries profitable.
Marital aids are sex toys used by individuals or couples.
Back to A-ZMASOCHISM
Getting turned on by receiving pain or humiliation. Basically, “thank you, may I have another?” but with a smile.
Masochism is arousal from consensually receiving pain or humiliation.
Back to A-ZMASTER / SLAVE
One gives the orders, the other follows. Not to be confused with actual slavery, it’s more like adult Simon Says with paddles.
Master and slave describes a consensual authority-exchange relationship in BDSM.
Back to A-ZMATROOM / PLAYROOM
A big room for group play... “matroom” if it’s actually mats on the floor, “playroom” if there are beds. Either way: think sleepover meets Cirque du Soleil, minus the pajamas.
A matroom or playroom is a shared space for sexual activity at a club or party.
Back to A-ZMEET FOR PLEASURE
When “Netflix and chill” skips right to the credits. No dinner, no drama, just dessert.
Meet for pleasure means meeting mainly for sexual activity.
Back to A-ZMÉNAGE À TROIS
Three people in one bed. The original French import that Americans definitely got right.
Ménage à trois means a sexual or romantic arrangement involving three people.
Back to A-ZMFM / MFMM
The swinger math equation where one woman becomes very popular.
MFM means two men and one woman; MFMM means three men and one woman.
Back to A-ZMORESOMES
More than three people. At some point, it stops being an orgy and starts being a team-building exercise.
Moresomes are sexual encounters involving four or more people.
Back to A-ZMUTUAL MASTURBATION
When everyone’s doing their own thing together. Like a synchronized swimming routine, without the pool.
Mutual masturbation means people stimulating themselves or each other together.
Back to A-ZMWC
Married White Couple. Think MWC seeks BBC. All acronyms and code for we need it now.
MWC means married white couple.
Back to A-ZN
NASCA
North American Swing Club Association. Because even orgies need an association with bylaws. Not around anymore, and do not confuse this with NASCAR!
NASCA was the North American Swing Club Association.
Back to A-ZNEWCOMERS
First-timers in the lifestyle. Easily identified by their wide eyes and questions like, “So... do we shake hands first?”
Newcomers are people new to swinging or lifestyle events.
Back to A-ZNSA (No Strings Attached)
Sex minus the emotional baggage. It’s all fun and games until someone forgets the safe word and the exit plan.
NSA means a sexual relationship without an expected romantic commitment.
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OFF-PREMISE
When the party’s “meet and greet” doesn’t include actual play, think of it as a lifestyle appetizer.
An off-premise event does not allow sexual activity at the venue.
Back to A-ZON-PREMISE
When the party is at a location where sex happens, there are beds and showers in the building. Think of it as a place where the Full Monty happens, including the DNA!
An on-premise club allows sexual activity at the venue.
Back to A-ZOPEN DOOR / OPEN SWINGING
Everyone plays in the same room. Privacy optional, audience guaranteed.
Open-door swinging means couples play in the same room.
Back to A-ZORGY
A glorious pile of consenting adults where names are optional and hydration is essential.
An orgy is group sex involving several participants.
Back to A-ZP
PARTY
Three or more people who show up to “hang out” and somehow lose their clothes by dessert.
A lifestyle party is a social gathering where sexual activity may occur.
Back to A-ZPARTY CLOTHES
What you wear before taking off what you really came in. Think “easy access with flair.”
Party clothes are sexy or easy-to-remove outfits worn to lifestyle events.
Back to A-ZPARTY HOUSE
A swing club that hosts regular on-premise parties. Basically, a B&B where the second “B” stands for “boinking.”
A party house is a private home or venue that regularly hosts lifestyle events.
Back to A-ZPASSIVE
Submissive or quiet partner who’s happy to receive direction, or spankings. Often mistaken for “shy” until you hand them a flogger.
Passive describes a participant who prefers a less directive or more receptive role.
Back to A-ZPORN
What you hope to make with the video setting on your camera phone while in your room with other couples naked. It’s very hot for you, but very grainy and dark for everyone else.
Porn is sexually explicit material intended to arouse viewers.
Back to A-ZP/P (Photo & Phone)
How swingers used to exchange info before apps existed. The original “send nudes.”
P/P means exchanging a photo and phone number.
Back to A-ZPRO
Someone who charges for their services. If you have to ask for rates, it’s not amateur night.
A pro is a professional sex worker or paid companion.
Back to A-ZQ
No terms yet... apparently the lifestyle is still working on this letter.
R
RECREATIONAL SWINGER
Does it for fun, not feelings. Like bowling, but with fewer shoes and more balls.
A recreational swinger participates mainly for sexual fun rather than romantic attachment.
Back to A-ZRESTRAINT
Light bondage for beginners. Great for those who like to feel tied to the moment.
Restraint means limiting movement with consensual bondage.
Back to A-ZROMAN / ROMAN CULTURE
Group sex, orgies, and wild parties. When in Rome... don’t wear pants.
Roman culture is an older euphemism for group sex or orgies.
Back to A-ZRUBBER
A condom, or a fetish for latex. Also a lifesaver, in every sense of the word.
Rubber may mean a condom or erotic interest in latex.
Back to A-ZS
SADISM
Pleasure from inflicting pain. Basically, foreplay with a soundtrack of ouch and thank you.
Sadism is arousal from consensually inflicting pain or humiliation.
Back to A-ZSAFE
Means someone can’t get pregnant or impregnate, vasectomy, tubes tied, or divine intervention.
Safe may mean pregnancy is unlikely, but it does not mean protection from sexually transmitted infections.
Back to A-ZSAME ROOM
Couples play side by side. The swinger version of “keeping an eye on things.”
Same-room play means couples have sex in the same room.
Back to A-ZSEPARATE ROOM
You do your thing, they do theirs, and you meet later for the post-game recap.
Separate-room play means partners have sex in different rooms.
Back to A-ZS&M (Sadism & Masochism)
Pain, pleasure, and probably a safe word that sounds ridiculous when yelled.
S&M combines consensual sadism and masochism.
Back to A-ZSINGLE
A swinger without a partner, sometimes known as “the plus-one who’s everyone’s plus-one.”
A single is an unattached person participating in the lifestyle.
Back to A-ZSLUT
Affectionate term for ladies in the lifestyle, not to be confused with whore, which means you do it for money.
Slut may be used consensually and affectionately within some lifestyle communities.
Back to A-ZSOCIAL
A swinger gathering with no play... allegedly. Check the parking lot to be sure.
A social is a lifestyle gathering intended mainly for meeting and conversation.
Back to A-ZSOCIAL SWING CLUB
A club where people meet for parties, workshops, or orgies disguised as “networking events.”
A social swing club organizes lifestyle gatherings and events.
Back to A-ZSODOMY
Any sex act not involving the missionary position. Once illegal, now just Saturday night.
Sodomy is an older legal or religious term often applied to oral or anal sex.
Back to A-ZSOFT SWINGERS (Soft Swap)
Couples who fool around but don’t have full penetration. Basically in the “swinger very friendly zone.”
Soft swap means couples exchange partners for sexual activity without penetrative intercourse.
Back to A-ZSOFT SWINGING (SRS)
Everything but full intercourse. Think of it as foreplay with an audience.
Soft swinging means sexual activity with others without full penetrative sex.
Back to A-ZSPITROAST
A woman enjoying attention from both ends at once. Not for vegetarians.
Spitroast means one person is orally and vaginally or anally penetrated at the same time.
Back to A-ZSTD
Sexually Transmitted Disease. Proof that sexy adventures still require homework and testing.
STD is an older abbreviation for sexually transmitted disease, now often called STI.
Back to A-ZSTR / STR8 / STRAIGHT
Not into same-sex play. Also used for non-swingers, basically anyone who still thinks pineapple is just fruit.
Straight describes heterosexual attraction or no interest in same-sex play.
Back to A-ZSUBMISSIVE
Likes to be told what to do. The only person happy to hear, “On your knees.”
A submissive consensually gives control to a dominant partner.
Back to A-ZSWAPPING
Two couples exchange partners. It’s like partner dancing, just with less clothing and more rhythm.
Swapping means couples exchange partners for sexual activity.
Back to A-ZSWINGING
Consensual adult fun with others. Key words: consensual, adult, fun, in that order.
Swinging is consensual sexual activity with people outside a primary relationship, usually involving couples.
Back to A-ZSWINGER INSURANCE
ED medication like Viagra or Cialis. Because sometimes the mind is willing, but the body forgot to RSVP.
Swinger insurance is slang for erectile-dysfunction medication used before play.
Back to A-ZSWINGING LIFESTYLE
When this isn’t just a hobby, it’s a lifestyle. There’s no going back once you’ve ordered “Hedonism” on repeat.
The swinging lifestyle is ongoing participation in consensual partner sharing or group sexual activity.
Back to A-ZSWINGING MARRIAGE
A marriage built on trust, communication, and just enough stamina for round two.
A swinging marriage is a marriage in which both partners consent to sexual activity with others.
Back to A-ZT
TAN
Tested Antibody Negative for HIV. Translation: clean bill of health and good to go. No sunscreen needed.
TAN is older shorthand for having tested negative for HIV antibodies.
Back to A-ZTHREESOME
Three people. Two get busy, one wonders why they didn’t stretch first.
A threesome is sexual activity involving three people.
Back to A-ZTICKET
A woman brought to a party so her male “friend” can get in. Also known as “human cover charge.”
A ticket is a woman accompanying a man to satisfy a couples-only entry rule.
Back to A-ZTRIAD
A committed relationship between three people. Not a threesome, think polyamory with better scheduling.
A triad is a three-person romantic relationship.
Back to A-ZTWINK
A young, attractive gay man with the metabolism of a hummingbird and zero body hair.
A twink is a youthful-looking, usually slim gay man.
Back to A-ZU
UNICORN
Mythical single female in the lifestyle. They are out there, but they are one boyfriend away from being a couple... after that, sometimes in the lifestyle, sometimes not.
A unicorn is a single woman interested in meeting couples in the swinger lifestyle.
Back to A-ZV
VANILLA FRIENDS
What you call your friends at home who are not in the lifestyle. Knowing they are your friends, they might be converted at any time.
Vanilla friends are friends who do not participate in the lifestyle.
Back to A-ZV-SAFE / VAS-SAFE
The guy’s had a vasectomy. The swimmers are retired, but the pool’s still open.
V-safe or vas-safe means a man has had a vasectomy.
Back to A-ZVERSATILE
Enjoys being both top and bottom. The true multitasker of the bedroom.
Versatile means comfortable taking either the insertive or receptive role.
Back to A-ZVIRGINS
First-timers in the lifestyle. It might be their first experience with other swingers or their first visit to a club or resort. Just don’t be surprised if someone jokingly refers to them as... “Fresh Meat.”
Lifestyle virgins are people attending or participating for the first time.
Back to A-ZVOLUPTUOUS
Curvy, full-bodied, and proudly built for pleasure. Think “dangerous curves ahead.”
Voluptuous describes a curvy or full-figured body.
Back to A-ZVOYEUR
Loves watching others play. Think of them as the lifestyle’s quiet film critics.
A voyeur is aroused by watching others undress or have sex.
Back to A-ZVOYEURISM
Getting off by watching others have sex. Great hobby, terrible job interview answer.
Voyeurism is sexual arousal from watching others in intimate situations.
Back to A-ZVWE (Very Well Endowed)
The kind of guy who gets asked, “Is that thing registered as a weapon?”
VWE means very well endowed.
Back to A-ZW
WINGWOMAN OR WINGMAN
The good friend who helps you find your next bed playmate. Think of them as your personal Amazon delivery service... no Prime membership required.
A wingwoman or wingman helps someone meet a potential play partner.
Back to A-ZX
No terms yet... apparently the lifestyle is still working on this letter.
Y
No terms yet... apparently the lifestyle is still working on this letter.
Z
ZIPLESS
A sexual encounter so disappointing it barely counts. Think “zipless f**k.” If this word enters the conversation, it’s probably time for a do-over... preferably with someone else.
Zipless describes a brief sexual encounter with little emotional connection.
Back to A-ZSwinger Acronyms
Lifestyle profiles are full of abbreviations. Here is the cheat sheet.
ATM
BBC
BiF
BiM
BiMF
BiMM
BDSM
BWC
CD
Cross-dresser
CPL
DBF
Divorced Black Female
DBM
Divorced Black Male
DDF
DD's
Double D Chest Size
DOM
DOMME
DP
DPV
D/S
DWF
Divorced White Female
DWM
Divorced White Male
DTF
Down to fuck
F/T
Full Time
F2F
Face-to-Face
F4F
Women For Woman
F4M
Women For Man
F4MF
Women For Man Women
GSOH
Good Sense of Humor
GBF
GBM
GWF
GWM
HWP
ISO
IRL
ILU
I Love You
LOL
Laugh(ing) Out Loud
LTR
LFG
LDS
Latter-day Saints
LDR
Long Distance Relationship
LGBT
LGBTQ
LGBTQi
LGBTQIA
LS
M4M
Man For Men
M4W
Man For Women
MBA
Married But Available
MBF
Married Black Female
MBM
Married Black Male
MF4MF
Man Women For Man Women
MF4F
Man Women For Women
MF4M
Man Women For Man
MM
Married Men
MWC
MWF
Married White Female
MWM
Married White Male
NSA
P/T
Part time
RPG
Role Playing Games
RL
SAF
SAM
SALT
SBF
SBM
SCF
SCM
SHF
SHM
SINK
SM
SOH
Sense of Humor
SUB
SWF
SWM
SO
Significant Other
SWALK
Sealed With A Loving Kiss
TS
Transsexual
T-Girl
Transsexual Female
VDP
W4M
Women For Men
W4W
Women For Women
W/E
WLTM
Would Like To Meet
XOXO
Hugs and Kisses
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